youth and young woman-hood

Society can’t seem to make it’s mind up about what is acceptable and what is not in the world of sexual politics.

Apparently in our modern society it is ok for women to have multiple sex partners. This is the symbol of an empowered woman, a woman who knows what she wants a woman, a woman who is sure of herself and comfortable with her body, no matter what the shape or size. However, the older school of thought is still amidst us.  A woman who is promiscuous, is a woman of low moral standards and no self esteem. I think the idea that a woman is empowered because she allows herself to be used for sex by multiple men is disgusting. You may argue, well what’s to stop her being the one who is using, maybe she wants some no-strings fun, well maybe she does, but at the end of the day she feels ashamed and lonely, and only has herself to blame.

Don’t get me wrong, I think the same of men. I know plenty of men who sleep with lots of women and think it makes them a man. However, most of these men have been hurt by women, which lead them to go through a trail of women, who were easy to convince, woman who had as little self-esteem as themselves. I personally feel sickened by any man who has slept with a string of women, especially one who isn’t ashamed, it shows that he is insecure and a slave to what society says. I also think anyone woman who settles for this kind of man has severe self-esteem issues, how can any woman commit to  a man who has claimed change in the past but just continued on his path of the sexual and emotional destruction of women.

I have slept with five people, of  those, I was committed to two, one of which I was in love(at least I thought I was until I discovered what love really is), and was madly in love with the third. The other two were friends, who I don’t regret in the slightest. But women my age, GIRLS younger than me have slept with more than that, because they thought it was acceptable, or because they felt so insecure that a man showing he wanted to have sex with her was all they needed to find some shred of self confidence.  Its the same for men, they sleep with as many women as they can because they think it makes them valid, and yet I get called a slut sometimes because I can openly talk about sex and because I am not ashamed that I enjoy it. I think you can see from my “magic number” I’m not a slut.

The eternal question- why do people think it is ok to have sex with just anybody?